Girl Fights

So I’ve kind of been getting into it lately with this crunchy Mom from Nova Scotia. It all started when she commented over on Sundry about how letting your children cry is child ABUSE. You can’t read her first comment as it was removed, but she followed it up with her own post on the whole CIO issue, and, well I couldn’t help putting my 2 cents in. We obviously have fundamental differences on just about every theory and manner of child-rearing, but it’s somehow fun to shake the dust off my beliefs and just put them out there and see what other people think. It seems to be the whole point of blogging no?

What I am newly appreciative of is that I DON’T have these disagreements with my friends in real life. It’s amazing how deep the “need to feel I am a good parent” goes, and how crazy-making it is when your abilities are called into question. I am grateful that the many, many Moms I am close to off-line are all of the live-and-let-live variety and do not pass judgement on me. I fervently hope that I am not too judgey of them in return (although I slightly suspect that I have been at times). “Oh, YOU don’t make all your own organic babyfood?” Barf. Why is it so easy to be so self-righteous?

So here is my new resolution, no more smug-judging for me, and I encourage my friends to call me out on if I do. It’s just unbecoming, unwelcome, and unnecessary – not to mention counterproductive.